1- Stay at the Penthouse Hotel. This hotel looks like Larry Flint designed it. Each room has ceiling mirrors, a striper pool, lights, giant bed, mini bar full of sex toys, and the television has a channel hooked up to the strip club next door.

2- Wake up in the morning. Brush your teeth, but do not take a shower as of yet.

3- Go visit a body massage parlor. They will bath, wash you, and take care of you.

4- Get some lunch at the Hard Rock Cafe

5- Go visit the bar streets. Here you can find bars with thousands of girls and hours of entertainment.

6- Go back home and get ready for the nightlife.

7- Go to walking street where you find the best GoGo dancers of all time.
Look at:
· Iron (They have hot tubs, striper stage, and little dance shows)
· Next to Iron, they have another GoGo bar where all the girls are dressed as Flight Attendants.
· Club Boesche. (They have some of the best hot tub parties you have ever seen.)
· Diamond Club (Great quality of girls)

8- When the GoGo bars close, go to Insomnia, which is a premier after hours nightclub. Most the girls who finish work will go there.
If you would like something to do for 24 hours of non-stop fun, this is perfect for any guy’s trip or a bachelor party.

There are always a few activities or experiences like a “Bucket List” that may be recommended to have before you die, and this is one of them. A body massage has no comparison, because it is something you have never experienced in your lifetime.

Pattaya has about three Body Massage places right next to each other.

1- You walk in and behind a glass wall; you will see 20 – 100 girls sitting in stadium seating. Each girl will have a number.

2- Pick one that you like, she will come out and have a drink with you. If you like her, then she is the girl.

3- She will walk you up to your own private room. In this room you will find a king size bed next to a Jacuzzi bathtub. She will start running a bath for you.

4- You take of your cloths, step into the bath, and she washes you. While you are relaxing in the bubble bath, she will set up an air mattress and cover it with warm bubbles.

5- You move to the mattress. She takes off all her clothes, soaps up, and gives your body a massage with her body. One of the great experiences a guy can have.

6- She will move you to the bed and the rest is up to you.

7- 90 minutes later, she walks you back down and you will have a giant smile on your face. You will think to yourself, “This alone just made the trip to Pattaya worthwhile”.

FUCK, it’s all gone! My phone, my $4,000 watch, even my cologne.. This girl stole everything of value in my room. Even my phone charger was gone! Shit, this girl was thinking ahead….

The feeling of being lied to, taken advantage of, and most of all I feel like garbage. I have been coming to Thailand for many years now. I have met some wonderful and not so wonderful women; finally, it has happened to me.

I was tricked, drugged, and robbed…..and I never even slept with her. Life can be such a bitch…

Let us back up…how this did happen…

I was out partying with my two friends last night and between the three of us, we have seen it all. One just broke up with his girlfriend and the other just likes to party. After warming up at some very nice GoGo bars, we went to an after party club.

Not to get into the details of the night, we went to one club where we did not see any nice girls then went to another club to find better looking girls. This place was even worse, then we went to a third club, which was the worst.

We ended up back to the original club….

Yes we know, not quite a classy thing to do, however we like to look around for the best girls. These are not the places to go looking for a girlfriend but a good place to find dancers after work for half the price.

6:30 in the morning we are sitting outside finishing our drink. One very good-looking girl sits next to my friend and starts talking to him. After a couple of minutes, she walks away then sits next to me.

We exchange names and talked for about 5 minutes. She seems like a nice girl. She told me what she wanted, 1,000 baht for sex and just pay for taxi if no sex. It seemed like a good deal, so I agreed.

The friend that she was originally talking to was a little irritated but hey, things sometimes go that way. I take her home, we order ice cream from room service, and I fall asleep while she is gives me a back massage. I wake up alone with a huge headache and something did not feel right….

This is not a common occurrence in Thailand, but it does happen. She slipped some sort of sleeping pill into my ice cream. I passed out and 8 hours later, I woke up feeling violated with everything of value gone from my room.

I could barely remember what she looked like, besides being beautiful. The police were of course no help due to my shaky description. In addition, the hotel security camera was not working properly. Fuck, now that was an expensive learning experience.

Therefore, what can we do to learn from this and make sure this never happens again?

No. 1- Keep an eye on your drinks and food if you are taking a girl home for the first time.

No. 2- Take a photo of each girl you meet during the night. If your camera is stolen, this will not do much good, but it may help.

No. 3- Keep valuables in a safe, which you should have in your room. Tough to remember when you are drunk, but get in the habit of it.

No. 4- If this is the first time you have taken her back to your room, check her in at the reception. They will hold her identification card or take a copy of it.

No. 5- Shit will happen. Sometimes someone will bump into you and spill your drink and sometimes prostitutes will steal.

Thailand does have their fair share of lady boys and depending on where you go they can even look better than a real women can. After a few months in Thailand, I had to know why there are so many lady boys here.  In the United States, they have transvestites, but nothing to this extreme. So why in Thailand? I later found out the answers:

1 – Sex Industry

Thailand is known for their sex industry. This industry is mostly dominated by men coming overseas to meet girls. If you are a boy with feminine features that grows up in a poor town, you might try to get a piece of this action. For some lady boys, it is just business.

2 – Open Culture

Thailand is a very open culture when it comes to sex and homosexuality. It is because of this, many gay men and women come to Thailand to experience this. Being gay is not something which is frowned upon in Thailand.

3 – Respected Trade

A tip, do not speak badly about lady boys to other Thais. Being a lady boy is not a trade in which they look down upon; in fact, it is a respected form of work. For some of us, this is one of the biggest downsides and fears of visiting Thailand; it was one of my major fears. Which is why my friends and I created a full proof plan on how to keep the lady boys away.

First, a true story from Bangkok:

Recently I was on Phi Phi islands, one of my favorite places to relax in Thailand. During this stay, I met four English guys who were traveling Thailand for the first time. After a couple of nights of hanging out with them, Paul related his first night in Bangkok.
My friends and I just landed in Bangkok and stayed at Khao San Road, it is where all the guidebooks recommend for cheap housing. This is our first night of a two-week vacation so we wanted to get drunk and fuck some girls.

We went to the bars, then a dance club. I met this tall very good-looking girl with great tits. After a couple of dances and kisses, I asked if she wanted to come home with me. She said yes after a negotiated price of 2,000 baht. Not wanting to disturb my friends, I rented a different hotel room and we went up to the room. When we get to the room, she turned down the lights and we start making out. She takes off my cloths and gives me a blowjob. She stands up and I take off her shirt and play with her very nice fake tits. Slowly I work my way down and pull down her pants and panties… I stood frozen…SHE HAD A DICK!

Completely caught off guard and in shock, I put on my clothes and got ready to leave. I hear a laugh and she tells me she is going to stay in this room tonight. I turned around and said, “I DON’T GIVE A FUCK!” Moreover, I left this situation. Oh Paul, I do feel bad for him. He was so scared of a lady boy after that, he did not even touch one girl for the rest of his vacation. His story is not a unique one. If you do not know what to look for, you can easily fall into this trap.

If he could go back in time, what are some indicators he can look for to make sure this does not happen again?

No. 1- Khao San Road

There is great shopping here, however this is where most tourists new to Thailand tend to stay. Lady boys know this, and hunt for fresh meat there. I stay away from this place during the nighttime; about one third of all the “girls” will be lady boys.

No. 2- Dark Club

Nightclubs are dark and loud, a great place for lady boys to hide what they truly are. Most will have some distinguishing features that you can tell in the daytime. However, in a dark club and drunk, it will be very difficult to tell. In addition, nightclubs hide the
voice. Some lady boys have their Adams apple remove, but they still have the voice. Watch out for this.

No. 3- Tall

Most Thai girls are short. Most of the girls will be at least a head shorter then a lady boy. If you are drunk at a club and meet a girl where you can look into her eyes, it is not worth the risk. Move on and find yourself a shorter girl.

No. 4- Fake Tits

Having fake tits is a red flag. If her breasts looked enhanced, make sure you do a very solid check before anything happens.

No. 5- Feel before you kiss

Might come off rude, but you can get away with it if you are drunk and dancing. Feel her under area and check to see if she is packing a pistol. If you are very fearful, take her to the talking area and do a more real feel just to make sure. You can usually get away with it.

No. 6- Lights

If you take her home and she turns off the lights immediately, red flag. Do not let her touch you until you touch her.

No. 7- Friends

Unless your friends are real assholes, ask for their opinion. One may be better at telling if she is a lady boy or simply your friends are less drunk. Personally, if I am drinking and at a new place, I will never take a girl who is not at least a head length shorter than I am.
Let us not be like Paul. Follow these seven steps to make sure your lady is really is a lady.

“If you cannot manage your relationships correctly, you will have trouble. Do not promise these women more than you are willing to give. If you just want to sleep with them, do not tell them you want a girlfriend, they expect you to take them to your home
country when you leave. This will only spell disaster for you.”

Pattaya is a city like no other. Not only are you always a 10 and the unique foreigner but you can also provide a better life for her than she could create for herself. It is because of this that these women will like you and do whatever it takes to be with you IF you give them hope.

The advice above is sound. If you are only interested in sex, do not lie to these girls, there is a good chance she will believe you. If she sees you the next evening and you are out with another woman….it could mean trouble.

In Pattaya, focus on these three types of Relationships:

1- Sex
2- Girlfriend
3- Wife / Long Term Girlfriend

1 – Sex

This is easy to come by in Pattaya if you look at the right places. You have the paid
options:
· Bars
· GoGo Dances
· Massage Girls
· Body Massage Girls
You also have the unpaid options of meeting the girls during the daytime, at a standard nightclub, and an after party club.
If you are only looking for sex, do not lie and say you are looking for more. However, do not say you are only looking for sex either. Just skip the topic and if it does come up, say that if you meet the right girl you might be open to a relationship.

By lying or leading these girls on, you can have a whole bunch of problems ranging from girl fights to broken bottles on your head. This might be unfortunate, but it is true.

P.S. Girl fights may seem fun in the beginning, they do get old. Less drama is your goal. If you do not believe us, ask anyone who has lived in Thailand. Lying to these girls has a strange way of backfiring.

2 – Girlfriend

These girls are not limited to the ones you meet during the day. You can also meet these girls at bars or dance clubs and may have paid them to stay with you a couple of nights. If you find out you like her, do not worry where you met. If you like the girl, simply
focus on that. In Thailand, you will have many choices of women. Do not decide on one girl too quickly, it is very likely that the next day or in the next hour you will meet another girl you like.

When you first come, date around and meet a few women. If you are dating one woman and interested in other women, be honest and tell them truth. Tell her you like her, but you are still dating other women and you are not ready for a relationship just yet.

Trust us on this, this tip will save you a lot of time and hassle by being upfront with what you are looking for.

3 – Wife / Long Term Girlfriend

If you are looking for a long-term relationship or even a wife, you can find it in Pattaya. Typically, for this level of relationship you would start with a girlfriend, then depending how things go, this will turn in to a long-term relationship or even take her as your wife.

You will be looking into this option if you are looking for this type of relationship:

1- For a long term girlfriend to stay with you in Thailand
2- For a girlfriend in take back with you to your country
3- Looking to build a family and want to marry

Thai family culture is a little different from the western culture. Often when you enter a long-term relationship, be aware you have to take care of the woman AND her family.

Let me give you an example of this:

Recently a good friend of mine met this amazing girl working as a GoGo dancer in Pattaya. After spending a week with her, he went back to his home in Europe. During his time in Europe, he stayed in contact with this girl talking with her every day. After a few weeks, he decides that he really liked this girl and wanted to be with her. However, due to the work situation, he is unable to pack up everything and live in Thailand. Therefore, he asks her to stay with him in Europe.

She would love to; however, she has to take care of her family. She explains that she was working in Pattaya so that she and her family can survive. More than 75% of her income needs to go home to her family so they can eat, pay rent, and survive.

For her to come and stay with him in Europe, he would need to help take care of her family.

This seemed a little uncomfortable for him. He did not like the idea of paying a girl to be his girlfriend. After talking with some of his friends who understood Thailand, they explained the way it works with most of the girls.

Thailand is a poor country. They do not have social security or other government assistance programs to help their aging citizens. As the parents of the family get older, it becomes the responsibility of the children to take care of them.

When considering a long-term girlfriend in Thailand, it is very possible this situation will arise whether she was a bar girl, GoGo dancer, or a good girl.

To make a long story short, he decided it was worth it and she came to live with him in Europe. He sends her family 20,000 baht (600usd) every month.

One year down the road, they are very happy together. His friends are very jealous of his beautiful girlfriend. In addition, they will be getting married soon. For my friend this worked out very well. If you are not looking for anything long term, that is not a problem. Sometimes it is nice to have a girlfriend for 3 – 6 months then be single again. If this is what you prefer, Pattaya has something for everyone.

As the story above noted, there are quite a few differences between the Thai culture and the western culture.

When you enter a relationship with a girl from Thailand, you are entering the relationship with her and her family. Depending on where she comes from in Thailand, this could have many different meanings. If the girl’s family comes from the Northern or Eastern part of Thailand, then there is a good chance she will come from a family of poverty. Approval of her parents is not in question here, having money to support the girl and her family will be a major factor.

For example, last year I was with a girl from Isan, located in northeast Thailand. On the bus, I was talking with my girlfriend asking what I should bring as a gift. Since we were planning to stay one or two nights with her family, I did not want to come empty handed.
In my mind, I was imagining flowers and some candy. I was so wrong.

My girlfriend at the time had to explain that an acceptable gift was between 5,000 – 15,000 baht (about $150.00-$450.00 US). I was a little taken back a bit in my seat, but that was my first reaction and then it turned into more of a turn off. However, I really
liked this girl and decided that 5,000 baht would be my gift. To make a long story short, I stayed with her and her family for two nights. I slept on the wood floor of her parent’s house, which by the way only had two fans. The kitchen consisted of a one-burner stove and the dining room table was a rug on the floor.

By the end of this trip, the gift of 5,000 baht was the least I could do. The family was not concerned that I was a foreigner and they accepted me like one of their own. The friendliness and the openness of the Thai people never cease to surprise me. The
individuals who come from and live in poverty know only that lifestyle. We are lucky enough not to know that kind of suffering. They always have a smile on their face. This truly is “The Land of Smiles”.

Warning, you might have a stage 5 clinger on your hands…

One of my favorite movies is, “Wedding Crashers.” If you have never seen it, go out and rent it tonight. This is one of the best comedies of our time and explains allot.

In one memorable scene, Vince Vaughn’s character runs to his friend and explains he has a “Stage 5 Clinger” on his hands. Meaning, he has just slept with a girl that is following him and stalking him. He needs to get out of the situation right now before she has another chance to get a hold of him and never let go.

The term “Stage 5 Clinger” is notorious with my group of friends in Thailand.

Unfortunately, you will probably encounter this. It may seem great that an amazing beautiful girl will not let you out of her sight, but quickly you will find that the loss of your freedom just may not be worth it. A “Stage 5 Clinger” will not let you out of her sight no matter what you do. You go to the store to get some food, she will be there, you want to go out with your guy friends,
and she creates a major fuss about it. You want to use the toilet; she wants you to leave the door open. You go to sleep and wake up with her looking at you with shinny eyes. It gets very tiresome very quickly. Not to mention very unsettling, and now you need to
figure out how to get rid of her and fast.

There problem with these types of girls is that you cannot tell until you have sex with them. The girl may tell you she has a job and needs to go to work in the morning, but calls in sick just to spend the day with you. Then the next thing you know, it has been
one week and she has not left your side.

If you ask her to go home, she will get all quiet and make you feel guilty about wanting your space. Remember, this is what they are good at, playing guilt and mind games.

Making you feel like you need her not the other way around, that might work for a while but remember the longer you stay with her the worse it will turn out in the end.

This will happen to you in Thailand. If you appreciate your space even a little bit, you need to know how to handle these girls. There are two ways, one extreme and another, which requires some discipline:

1- Extreme Method

Personally, my freedom and personal space is very important to me. If I have a girlfriend that does not understand this, then I cannot have her around. If you are as I am in this case, you need to end it as soon as possible. Even if she is a perfect 10, you must end it and remember she will make you feel guilty no matter what.

Once you see some of the warning signs mentioned above, you need to send her home and never respond to her calls or text messages again. It will be very difficult to send them home due to the guilt trips they will try to pull. If you let them back in your life
again, it will be even harder to make them understand, do not give them mixed signals.

2- Discipline Method

Once you feel that you can handle the guilt, and you feel the girl is worth it, this will be your best way. Be disciplined about it. If she stays the night at your house, let her know that you have something to do in the morning and she HAS to leave at 9:00 am. Stick to
this, when 9:00 am hits, she has to be on her way.

She will cook you breakfast, tell you she can stay and clean your house, or a million other reasons why she needs to stay, but stick to your gun on this one.

After a few times of you sticking to the agreement, she will start to understand and realize you are serious. Then if things are going well, slowly let her into more of your life. However, be careful, if you slip up once, your freedom will be very difficult to get
back.

Maybe some of these critics are right, but I respectfully disagree with them. There are many reasons why you might want to spend the time to attract these girls instead of just paying then having sex with them right away.

1- You want more than a quick lay
2- You do not want to pay full price
3- You are looking for a girlfriend or a potential wife
4- You like talking and meeting new people

Attracting girls is far different from meeting girls; this can be a time consuming process and taking the approach one-step at a time vital. Meeting the girl ends when you break that first barrier of conversation. Now is the time where you find out about her and
convey your personality.

When attracting Thai girls, you will find that each type of girl will respond to something different. However, there are some basic similarities with all Thai girls.

1- They Want to Have Fun

In Thailand, you will come across this with every girl. They want to have fun. This country has a name, “Land of Smiles” for a reason.
If you are spending time with them during the day, do a fun activity, which you enjoy. If you like speed, rent a jet ski. If you like to shop, go visit one of the outdoor malls and just talk get to know each other.

During the evening time, girls like to drink and go dancing. Hate dancing, not a problem. When going to a club or a bar with a dance floor, you will find most girls will dance to the music without their guys. While most guys tend to dance to attract women, most
women like to dance because they simply like to dance.

2- They do not want a Player

Meaning, if a girl is dating you, she wants to feel that you are only dating her. Even if you both know that you are seeing more than one girl, act as if she is the only one when spending time with her. Do not even try looking at other women as they walk by, no
matter how beautiful they are. (Mentally mark the time and place in your head and you might be able to find that girl again

3- Don’t Wave Your Money Around

People travel to Thailand due to how far their money goes and how cheap everything seems. There is a good chance that you will make more in one year than the girl will make in 10 – 20 years working.

It is because of this some girls will be attracted to you. However, do not brag or talk about money too much. It will make you seem like a cocky tourist and will turn off some types of women.

4- When Meeting Her, Talk First

In Thailand, it is very easy to meet and attract women. However, if you do not start the conversation, you may miss an amazing opportunity.

During the day, simply smile and say “hello” in a friendly tone or give them a wink and a great smile. This is the best way to start a conversation and that one little word has lead to some incredible women.

These are just a few of the basic tips I have for you. You will find in Thailand that it is very easy to meet women. Simply saying hello, setting up a first date, and being yourself are all you really need to do.

When attracting a girl in Thailand, you should be aware of the three venues you can use to create an attraction between you and her:

1- Daytime
2- Nighttime
3- Online

Daytime

These ideas are if you meet a girl in the daytime or set up a date for the daytime. For the daytime dates in Pattaya, try something fun, interesting or plan an activity. For example, if I need to do a little shopping or looking for a new product to sell online, I will ask a girl
if she wants to meet up for lunch and do a little shopping.

A few ideas:
· The Beach
· Mall
· Movie
· Paintball
· Bungee Jumping
· Jet Skis
· Go Carting
· Shooting Range

· Any so many more

Night Time Date

If you are a night owl, you may prefer another kind of attraction. Personally, I have had a lot of my success using this avenue because Pattaya has so much to offer with its unique nightlife.

One or two drinks can loosen you up and get you in a talkative mood, use this to your advantage. Having a first or second date over drinks is a great way to meet your next girl and find out if you like her. If things are going well, try taking her dancing or go to a popular nightclub.

A few ideas:

· Hotel restaurants and bars
· Bars with live music
· Standard bar
· Clubs or Discos

One idea is to set up a first date during the day at Starbucks for a quick meet and greet then if things go well, set up an evening date. Evening dates can be a lot of fun if you are with the right person because there is so much to see and do in Pattaya. However, if you
are with the wrong person who bores you and cannot communicate with you, then it will be as much fun as going to the dentist.

Online

My last Thai girlfriend I meet online and it was not easy. It took over a week of MSN and video chat to set up the first date. Sometimes it may be while, however she is a woman of quality and time was needed to create enough attraction and comfort. It was
time well spent.

More and more girls are moving to the internet to meet people. Do not underestimate how powerful it can be to talk to the same girl everyday for a week on MSN. She will start to get used to talking with you and feel comfortable with you. Then when the
feeling is right, go ahead and set up a quick daytime date for coffee or lunch.

As mentioned in the previous chapters, using webcam via MSN or video chat via Skype is a powerful tool to build attraction with one another. Then you will feel more comfortable when meeting someone. If you spend enough time with the girl on webcam
and you know you like her, go ahead and set up the evening date first.

Continuation Date

A continuation date is when you set up a date for one activity then if it is going well, move the date to a different venue and continue it. For example, start with a lunch, and then if you are enjoying her company, take her to a movie. Then get a drink with her.

Just move the date from different locations. This will build comfort with the girl and you will be able to see what she is like doing a variety of things. By doing this, you can have the experience of five dates in one day. You can find out if you like her or not very quickly this way. If things do not work out, not too much time was wasted. In addition, by not committing your whole day to the date, you can bail whenever things get boring.

Warning, if this is your plan, just make sure she is not under any time constraints. Meaning, if she is meeting you for a lunch break from work, this will probably not work. Make sure you are meeting up on her day off and that she does not have anything too
pressing to do later that day.

In business school students are taught to leverage their strengths. If you work well in groups, be apart of a small team. If you are great with numbers, focus on accounting. Meeting and attracting women in your country or in Thailand is no different from this
aspect. You have strengths, show these or convey them to the opposite sex. What makes Thailand such a great place for meeting women is the moment you step off the plane, you are special. They like that you are not Thai. Use this to your advantage when meeting and attracting your next Thai girl.

This will happen to you, you will find a girl’s profile you like. You will look at her photos and she will seem perfect. Therefore, you send her a message telling her this and you check your email every day, but still no response. You check you sent email folder
and see that your message was read and it was not replied to. You send her another email, but still no response…the downward spiraling begins…

This is exactly where we do not want to be. Thai girls get over 200 messages a day. If for some reasons she doesn’t reply to your message, the next day your message will be below two hundred more men. Therefore, you must remember one thing…

Online dating is a numbers game!
Online dating is a numbers game!
Online dating is a numbers game!

In reality, you will get a response 10 – 20% of the time. However, without this chapter, you will probably be looking at 2 – 5 %.

Seven Proven Online Dating Tips:

1- As mentioned many times already, online dating is a numbers game. Do not get hung up on one girl’s profile. Nearly 100 new women sign up every week for these websites, use this to your advantage.

2- If it’s a paid website, start with the girls who have paid their monthly membership. The girls who have paid are more serious in their search for a man.

3- Next, start with the newest members. These are the girls which just signed up and have not been bombarded for the last few week or months from men already. Start with the fresh meat.

4- Do not waste your time sending an indicator of interest. Messages are more effective.

5- Create a template and mass mail it. You can go with two styles. A short message to the point or something more detailed which refers to her profile. Use the second type if the girl is super cute who took time to write her profile.

6- Use your best photos, but have your profile show that you are a “fun” and “good” person. Online dating can be scary for some girls, show that you are a good man.

7- Get her on MSN or Skype ASAP. Once you have some contact with them, you want to start talking with them off the dating website. This will keep their attention on you.

As you can see by our proven templates, you can even ask or offer your MSN user name in the first message.

Bonus Tip by the Author:

The goal is NOT to set up the date from the dating website; your goal is to get communication where you both are writing back and forth. Sometimes when you give your MSN user name, you will not hear anything for a few days. Then when you least expect it, you will get instant messages from more girls then you would believe.

Bonus Tip by a Female:

When asked to write some advice for online dating I was more than glad to help. I have used this method to meet my current boyfriend and I know this to be a great way to meet men without having to go to clubs and bars where you have to worry about drunken men hitting on you in the worst fashion.

I have a college education, I own my own business, and I have a busy life. I do not have much time to go out and meet men. I broke up with my boyfriend six months ago and just wanted to see what was out there for me. Therefore, my friend recommended
thailovelinks.com

First thing, I could not believe the amount of men which sent me messages and were interested. The first day it was interesting, but then it just got overwhelming. I attempted to read all the messages but could not keep up. I literally had hours of reading ahead of
me every day.

However, the messages I did read were a waste. I was getting messages from men telling me how rich they were, how beautiful I was, sending photos of their houses and families. Can you say, TMI (To Much Information)? I don’t care how much money you make or house nice your house is. I am not a whore. I am looking for a nice man where there is a connection.

My biggest piece of advice I can give is this, keep it simple. Do not send too much information, let me know what you like about me to show that you actually read my profile and give me a chance to reply. If the girl does not reply, she may be overwhelmed
or not interested. Send a second message a few days later. If still no response, then move on. Sometimes you are not their type.

That is real advice provided by my previous Thai girlfriend I met online following the guidelines in this chapter. She speaks great English, very successful, and is a lot of fun.

Mostly what she said I agree with, but my only addition is, do not spend much time on one girl’s profile.

If you see a girl that you like based on the photo, send a canned email message to her and maybe include one thing you found interesting in her profile.

Remember, in Thailand you are the 10. However online, there are a lot of 10’s like you. Keep this in mind. Keep it simple, keep it fun, and do not spend too much time online. You can meet great women online, especially from the two websites, I personally
recommend, but there is the whole city of Pattaya to explore and experience.

Templates:

There are a handful of templates that I use for online dating; however, there are two, which have been the most successful for me.

The first is short and to the point:

Hi, you seem quite cute and your profile is well written. I would like to talk with you. My MSN is blablah@blah.com would you like to talk with me?

I like this method due to the length and material contained within it. This holds quite a few things in it:

1- By using the word “quite” it tells the girl you think she is cute, but not that cute. Meaning, she has you a little bit interested, but not stalker status. This also lets her know indirectly that you are a man who has dated girls as cute as and cuter than her.

2- You provide her with your contact information outside of the dating website. Your goal is to have communication with them outside of the website.

You will be surprised how many women will add you to their MSN account and you will get a message a few days later asking how they know you.

3- Sales 101 keep your messages short and end it with a question. This gives her an easy way to reply without giving her pages of information to read through. The second template I prefer required a little more work. In this template, you will react
to something contained in her profile. Many women will mentioned what they like and what they do not like. End the message with a quick question:

Hello,

I just read your profile and something about it caught my eye. I notice that…. (Insert something that interests you) It is nice to see someone who has something in your profile more than “I’m a lady boy” or “I want to get married right away”.

You seem interesting and I would like to chat with you. Would you like to chat with me?

I will use this style of message with the cutest girls. It requires more time to tailor, however the exceptional girls will need a message that catches their eye. Being a foreigner with a nice profile will not be enough.

At first glance, it seems these templates are too easy to work or offers not enough information. Remember what you goal is. Your goal is not to set up a date with the first message you send, your only goal is to get a response. Even if the response is negative,
that will give you something to work with.

It is far easier to get a girl who says “no” than to get a girl who has never sent a response.

Have fun with you online dating and play around a few variations of the above examples.

Now that you have created communication with the girl, the next step is to work on attracting this girl with the least amount of effort.

Personally, I love the idea of meeting girls online. This gives you an entirely different avenue to meeting someone new without leaving your house. Less is more. Do less and get more is a great philosophy to live you dating life by. Before you enter the online dating world, you must remember one thing:

Online dating is a numbers game!

Meaning, even with the greatest profile, the most handsome photo, and an effective first email, you will still only get a response from a small percentage of the women you contact.

A real example of this:

When I first started online dating in Thailand, I joined two main websites. One was free; the other was a paid one. After a couple of weeks of trial and error, I had a great profile with a few great opening emails.

A week later, I had five dates that week.

I would usually do a daytime meet up at Starbucks for the first date. This is a great choice because with online dating, there are quite a few risks involved (explained below). A daytime date is best because if you do not like her or if she has an unexpected surprise,
you can leave in a respectful manner after 20 minutes. Anyway, during all these dates I would out of curiosity ask, “how many men do you have contact you a week?” I would get the response of them not knowing, but it was a lot. Two weeks down the road, one of the girls ended up as my next girlfriend. I would ask her the same question, and she said about a thousand men a week. I thought she was joking, a thousand new men contacting a girl in a week. That number was hard to wrap my mind around.

She opened up her laptop and logged into her second email account (created for online dating), low and behold, she was getting over 200 new emails a day. She was having over 1,400 new men contact her every week. Still so surprised, I asked her why she responded to mine. She said she liked my first email (I will share this email with you and others later in this chapter).
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Two Major Risks of Online Dating:

1- The profile photo does not represent the girl correctly:
This is something you will find anywhere in the world. Obviously, most people will put
the best photo of them on their profile. However, some push this to such extremes where
the photo will be so far from what they really look like. Their smile my not show the
crusted teeth, the angle may not show her real weight, or a common trick is to post a
photo taken years ago.

This risk sucks, but can be overcome quite easily…

Get ready for this, because this is the first time I have used this technique, it worked like a charm: MSN Webcam Chat.
Not only will you be able to see what she actually looks like, but also this is the best way to build comfort with the girl. By doing a video cam chat, you can show more of yourself and see more of her. You will quickly move from one of the thousands of men which
contacted her, to being that men she has seen and talked to.

In addition, you can have some fun with this. MSN has some great games you two can play. Have you ever tried online bowling where the loser takes off an article of clothing? You have to try this, it’s a blast! By a simple webcam chat, you can increase your success in online dating ten folds.

2- She is a Lady Boy

Okay, this sucks. Thankfully, I have never had a daytime date with a lady boy. However, this has been know to happen. Just by browsing on the dating websites, you will find out that at least 10 percent of the girls are actual lady boys. In places like
Bangkok and Pattaya, the lady boys can look very good. Sometimes even locals cannot tell…

When I started online dating, it was just about the same time a good friend of mine started doing the same. Dom has been living in Thailand for over ten years now and even speaks fluent Thai. Therefore, when it comes to dating, he knows his shit.

In his first week of online dating, he had a date every day of the week. We would also share how our dates went, what we did to set it up, and give each other some advice. On his second date, I would ask him how it went. He looked at me and said, “no good”.
I knew what he meant right away. Sometimes the girl may be very sexy and sound good, however, if you meet them during the day and you still have a small doubt in your mind that she might be a lady boy, move on to the next woman. It is not worth the risk and
some of these lady boys have all the right operations with the fake ID to prove it. He skipped a vital step, he did not do a webcam chat or a phone call to hear her voice first.

This sucks, but is a risk with meeting girls in Thailand. As I said, this has never happened to me, or any of my other friends. But it does happen and you should be aware of the risks.

Want to learn how to eliminate all the risks of dating a lady boy. Later in this book, we have a chapter, which tells you the risks of dating in Thailand with some advice to help you out.

Type of girls you can meet online

One reason I love online dating is the variety of girls you can meet. Online you will find females ranging from bar girls to very successful women. By reading their profile, you can get a good idea how to classify the girl into one of the three categories:

1- Looking for a new customers
2- Looking for a boyfriend
3- Looking for a husband

Look at the age group of their preferred mate. If she is 22 years old and looking for a man between the ages of 40 – 60, you will be able to tell which of the three she is. Did she actually take the time to write her profile and add real photos of her? You might
have a number two on your hands. Does she have a photo wearing a bikini or sexy underwear? Good chance she is a
number one.

When you read our proven techniques for online dating, you will find that these questions do not matter until you have already received a response. By falling in love with her photo and profile before a response is a good way to set up yourself for disappointment.

Best Pattaya Dating Websites

There are two websites I recommend. Both of the sites, I have had great success:

1- www.ThaiLoveLinks.com

This has been by far my most successful paid website. It will cost you about 30usd a month, but will be well worth the money. This is the most popular dating website in Thailand.
Pros:
- It is a paid website
What? How can paying to be a member be a good thing? Well, it’s more of a half paid
site. You can sign up for free and contact paying members free of charge. However, if
you want to contact other free members, you will need to upgrade to a paid account.
Girls that pay to become member are girls who want to meet a man. They are not just
browsing to see what the man looks like; they paid 30usd to meet you. Start with the
members who have paid, this is where you will get the highest percentage of women who
respond to you.
- Not many are lady boys
This website does not seem to have that many lady boys. In addition, those which are
lady boys will state that they are.
- Sign up for Free
You can sign up for free and contact paid members
- Highest closing ratio
This website has proven to be very successful for me and nearly all my other friends who
try online dating in Thailand.
Cons:
- It is a paid website
There are pros and cons at the same time. If you want full access, you will have to pay.

2- www.DateinAsia.com

Dates in Asia is the best free dating website in Thailand. No payment is required at any point and you have full access the moment you join.
Pros:
- Free
- Easy to message and show interest
-Very easy to browse, show interest, and message the girls.
Cons:
- Lady Boys
You will find many lady boys on this website. However, most of the lady boys will say in their profile that they are a woman boy.
- Lots of Browser

Since this website is free, there are many girls, which just join this website to browse with very little intention of meeting a man. It just becomes a fun past time for them. Above are the two best online dating websites in Thailand. One is a free website, the
other is paid. You get the best of both worlds.

P.S. Craigslist is only good for prostitutes.

During the day, most women are not out trying to meet anyone; this will be something you and her will do at night. They may be working, going to meet up with a friend, or on any other number of errands. Just because they have something going on does not mean they are not interested in meeting a great guy. It just means it is not on their mind at that exact moment.

Therefore, it is your job to be sure you get on their mind. To do this all you need to do is start a simple conversation with her. Start with a simple “hi”. For example, one of my favorite places to meet Thai girls is in the mall. Thailand is a hot place and I like the air-conditioned malls, which are loaded with female staff. Whether you are shopping for anything particular or just browsing, the malls have enough stuff to keep you entertained for quite some time.

Look at the little booths you will see on the side of the isles. They always have interesting stuff and a bored cute girl working behind the counter. Whatever catches your eye, ask to see it. Make a few comments, then make eye contact with the girl, smile and
introduce yourself in a friendly manner.

Something this simple will start a relationship more times than you would believe. If you do not like to make the first move or make the first approach, try this method, which has worked to great success with many men.

Hotel receptionists are a great place to look for your next Thai girl. They tend to be good looking, speak English very well, and educated with at least a college degree.

Like most people, when you first come to Thailand you will book your hotel online without actually seeing it in person. Pattaya is full of different hotels ranging from one star to five stars.

When you are in Pattaya, do a little hotel shopping. If you see a hotel, which catches your eye, talk with the reception and ask to see a room. This is the perfect time to see if you like her and learn about some different accommodation options.

I recommend staying away from the hotel staff of where you stay. You do not want to get involved with a worker and then be seen taking another girl home. It will only cause unnecessary drama.

Beach:

Pattaya is not only the top destination for tourist around the world just because of the nightlife; the day life is great as well. They have some great beaches in and around Pattaya. Grab a Frisbee, a football, or go swimming. The beach is a great social place to meet new people and new girls. Some very successful introductions:

- “Hey, what’s your name?”
- “Can you play?” Referring to the Frisbee or football
- Ask if they know of a good place to eat or get a drink

Most of the girls in Pattaya will be able to speak English. Do not be afraid to say the first word, if you noticed them, they have already noticed you. Remember, you are the 10!

Massage Parlors:

This is again one of my favorite ways to meet girls in Thailand during the day. I am not talking about the happy ending massages, but a nice classic Thai massage. What makes this so great is when you walk near or in a massage parlor; you will have your pick of 10 – 20 girls. You can pick the one you want and order your massage. Then you have your own private massage girl for one hour. During this time, you can ask questions and talk away. You have one hour to find out if you like this girl while getting a massage at a tenth of the cost it would be back home.

Shopping Malls:

If there is one thing Pattaya has, it’s shopping to suit everyone. This city has huge shopping malls, some even 5 stories high. In addition, they have many like these throughout this city.

Visiting a shopping mall is a great way to do a little shopping, get out of the heat, and to meet girls. In one shopping mall, you will find hundreds of young women. These women are very easy to meet and start a conversation with because they are there to help you.

Restaurants:

Every one needs to eat, so why not have fun in the process and meet new people. There are restaurants in Pattaya which offer every type of ethnicity. Many will have a cute female staff. In western countries, it can be difficult to get servers phone number and set up a date. In Thailand, it is quite easy. All you need to do is ask. Remember, here you are the 10.

With the two basic styles of prostitution covered, we are getting to a venue on where it takes a little work to meeting girls. Note, not that much, and do you remember why?

(The answer includes the number 10

A nightclub is as a basic dance club with a bar, which is usually open from 22:00 – 02:30.

With a standard nightclub in Thailand, you will find three types of girls:

1- Bar Girls that have left the bar early
2- Freelance Girls
3- Good Girls (Girls who do not have sex for money)

These three types of girls are usually easy to spot when in the club. The first types are usually dancing on stage all sexy and will be the ones who approach you right off the bat.

The good girls will usually be well dressed and have at least one friend around them. They will be near the bar or have their own table and will be drinking. Look at what they are drinking. A sign of class in Thailand is brand named whiskey.

Are they drinking the cheap whiskey or Black Label?

How to spot these different types of girls

Bar Girls:
- Easy to spot
- Dresses very sexy with as little clothing as possible
- Drinks cheap whiskey
- Will be seen approaching foreigners often
- Will be the first type of girls to approach you when entering the nightclub
- Their skin tends to be the darkest out of the three. (Skin tone is a sign of status in
Thailand. (The whiter the skin, the better family she comes from)
- They have many tattoos. Some that will cover their entire backs and/or butterfly
tattoos, which are a dead giveaway
- Teeth, which are not perfect
- If you ask these girls where they work, they will usually admit they work at a bar or a
GoGo club
- Early in the conversation, they will say their price to take them home.

Freelance Girls:
- A little harder to spot
- These girl tend to dress better. Do not dress sexy and not so slutty
- They tend to be alone or with one or two friends
- These girls may or may not approach you right off the bat
- These girls will not bring up a price or that they have sex for money until later in the
conversation, they will spend the time to get you hooked
- They may drink a variety of different drinks from beer to cocktails

Good Girls:

- Good girls are the type of girls that do not have sex for money
- They usually go out with a larger group
- They will usually be drinking the more expensive drinks, or sharing a bottle of Black
Label whiskey
- These girls will typically not approach you, however may give you some eye contact as
an invitation to approach them
- There are two types of good girls; some have high paying jobs, and those that have low
paying jobs
- These types of girls make the best girlfriends or wives

In Thailand, we all prefer a different style of women. Some are looking for a girl to keep them company for the night, while some are looking for a girlfriend. Keep in mind the three types of girls when entering the night club and keep in mind what you are looking for. It is too easy to get drunk and take the first cute girl that starts talking with you.

Entering and Location:

When entering the club, you have a few choices to sit. If I am by myself or with one other person, I will take a spot at the bar. This is a great place to start a conversation with other people and girls will be coming to order a new drink all night long. Don’t feel the
vibe with one girl, another will be taking her place within a minute or two. If you are entering the club with a group, get a small table in the middle of the club where you are around people. This will already put you in a social situation while you are
drinking.

Remember, Pattaya girls go to clubs for two reasons:

1- Looking for a customer
2- Have fun with friends and maybe find a person of interest

Since the first one is a no brainer to find in Pattaya, we will be looking at number two. Girls want to have fun when they go out.

A Nightlife Tip:

- Do not be sitting alone looking at your drink. If you are around someone, strike up a conversation. This shows that you are a talkative social person. The strange thing about night clubs is once you start talking, you will get into a talkative mood. It will be far
easier to talk with girls and other people. When meeting a girl in a nightclub, remember that you are the perfect 10. All you need
to open a conversation with is a simple “hi”. Half the times this is all you need to start a conversation with a beautiful girl in Pattaya.

After Party Clubs:

This by far would be my favorite place for meeting girls at night. The after party clubs are open from 02:00 – 06:00. These are the clubs where people go when all the other clubs close. Bar girls and Go-Go dancers get off at 02:30. As I mentioned before, just because a girl in Pattaya works in a bar or Go-Go does not mean she is a bad girl.

In Pattaya you may find amazing girls at the Go-Go which want to go with you, however because they are working, you will need to pay 4,000 baht which will cover the bar fine and girls wages.

If these girls have no customer, a lot of them will move to the after party clubs where you can talk without the stress of them being at work. There is a huge difference when talking to a girl which is working, and talking to a woman who goes to a bar after work
just for fun. Some nights I have even skipped the normal bars and just go out at 03:00. A note of warning though, most of the very beautiful girls will have gone home by 05:00. Therefore, you have a two-hour window.