Relationships with Pattaya Girls

“Mark, by being in Thailand and dating women in Thailand, life will be a little different from back home. As I mentioned before, you are the 10 here. However, there is more to it than that, in Pattaya, these girls will WANT to be in relationships with you. They want
to live with you and take care of you, cook, clean, and be with you.”

“If you cannot manage your relationships correctly, you will have trouble. Do not promise these women more than you are willing to give. If you just want to sleep with them, do not tell them you want a girlfriend, they expect you to take them to your home
country when you leave. This will only spell disaster for you.”

Pattaya is a city like no other. Not only are you always a 10 and the unique foreigner but you can also provide a better life for her than she could create for herself. It is because of this that these women will like you and do whatever it takes to be with you IF you give them hope.

The advice above is sound. If you are only interested in sex, do not lie to these girls, there is a good chance she will believe you. If she sees you the next evening and you are out with another woman….it could mean trouble.

In Pattaya, focus on these three types of Relationships:

1- Sex
2- Girlfriend
3- Wife / Long Term Girlfriend

1 – Sex

This is easy to come by in Pattaya if you look at the right places. You have the paid
options:
· Bars
· GoGo Dances
· Massage Girls
· Body Massage Girls
You also have the unpaid options of meeting the girls during the daytime, at a standard nightclub, and an after party club.
If you are only looking for sex, do not lie and say you are looking for more. However, do not say you are only looking for sex either. Just skip the topic and if it does come up, say that if you meet the right girl you might be open to a relationship.

By lying or leading these girls on, you can have a whole bunch of problems ranging from girl fights to broken bottles on your head. This might be unfortunate, but it is true.

P.S. Girl fights may seem fun in the beginning, they do get old. Less drama is your goal. If you do not believe us, ask anyone who has lived in Thailand. Lying to these girls has a strange way of backfiring.

2 – Girlfriend

These girls are not limited to the ones you meet during the day. You can also meet these girls at bars or dance clubs and may have paid them to stay with you a couple of nights. If you find out you like her, do not worry where you met. If you like the girl, simply
focus on that. In Thailand, you will have many choices of women. Do not decide on one girl too quickly, it is very likely that the next day or in the next hour you will meet another girl you like.

When you first come, date around and meet a few women. If you are dating one woman and interested in other women, be honest and tell them truth. Tell her you like her, but you are still dating other women and you are not ready for a relationship just yet.

Trust us on this, this tip will save you a lot of time and hassle by being upfront with what you are looking for.

3 – Wife / Long Term Girlfriend

If you are looking for a long-term relationship or even a wife, you can find it in Pattaya. Typically, for this level of relationship you would start with a girlfriend, then depending how things go, this will turn in to a long-term relationship or even take her as your wife.

You will be looking into this option if you are looking for this type of relationship:

1- For a long term girlfriend to stay with you in Thailand
2- For a girlfriend in take back with you to your country
3- Looking to build a family and want to marry

Thai family culture is a little different from the western culture. Often when you enter a long-term relationship, be aware you have to take care of the woman AND her family.

Let me give you an example of this:

Recently a good friend of mine met this amazing girl working as a GoGo dancer in Pattaya. After spending a week with her, he went back to his home in Europe. During his time in Europe, he stayed in contact with this girl talking with her every day. After a few weeks, he decides that he really liked this girl and wanted to be with her. However, due to the work situation, he is unable to pack up everything and live in Thailand. Therefore, he asks her to stay with him in Europe.

She would love to; however, she has to take care of her family. She explains that she was working in Pattaya so that she and her family can survive. More than 75% of her income needs to go home to her family so they can eat, pay rent, and survive.

For her to come and stay with him in Europe, he would need to help take care of her family.

This seemed a little uncomfortable for him. He did not like the idea of paying a girl to be his girlfriend. After talking with some of his friends who understood Thailand, they explained the way it works with most of the girls.

Thailand is a poor country. They do not have social security or other government assistance programs to help their aging citizens. As the parents of the family get older, it becomes the responsibility of the children to take care of them.

When considering a long-term girlfriend in Thailand, it is very possible this situation will arise whether she was a bar girl, GoGo dancer, or a good girl.

To make a long story short, he decided it was worth it and she came to live with him in Europe. He sends her family 20,000 baht (600usd) every month.

One year down the road, they are very happy together. His friends are very jealous of his beautiful girlfriend. In addition, they will be getting married soon. For my friend this worked out very well. If you are not looking for anything long term, that is not a problem. Sometimes it is nice to have a girlfriend for 3 – 6 months then be single again. If this is what you prefer, Pattaya has something for everyone.

As the story above noted, there are quite a few differences between the Thai culture and the western culture.

When you enter a relationship with a girl from Thailand, you are entering the relationship with her and her family. Depending on where she comes from in Thailand, this could have many different meanings. If the girl’s family comes from the Northern or Eastern part of Thailand, then there is a good chance she will come from a family of poverty. Approval of her parents is not in question here, having money to support the girl and her family will be a major factor.

For example, last year I was with a girl from Isan, located in northeast Thailand. On the bus, I was talking with my girlfriend asking what I should bring as a gift. Since we were planning to stay one or two nights with her family, I did not want to come empty handed.
In my mind, I was imagining flowers and some candy. I was so wrong.

My girlfriend at the time had to explain that an acceptable gift was between 5,000 – 15,000 baht (about $150.00-$450.00 US). I was a little taken back a bit in my seat, but that was my first reaction and then it turned into more of a turn off. However, I really
liked this girl and decided that 5,000 baht would be my gift. To make a long story short, I stayed with her and her family for two nights. I slept on the wood floor of her parent’s house, which by the way only had two fans. The kitchen consisted of a one-burner stove and the dining room table was a rug on the floor.

By the end of this trip, the gift of 5,000 baht was the least I could do. The family was not concerned that I was a foreigner and they accepted me like one of their own. The friendliness and the openness of the Thai people never cease to surprise me. The
individuals who come from and live in poverty know only that lifestyle. We are lucky enough not to know that kind of suffering. They always have a smile on their face. This truly is “The Land of Smiles”.

Warning, you might have a stage 5 clinger on your hands…

One of my favorite movies is, “Wedding Crashers.” If you have never seen it, go out and rent it tonight. This is one of the best comedies of our time and explains allot.

In one memorable scene, Vince Vaughn’s character runs to his friend and explains he has a “Stage 5 Clinger” on his hands. Meaning, he has just slept with a girl that is following him and stalking him. He needs to get out of the situation right now before she has another chance to get a hold of him and never let go.

The term “Stage 5 Clinger” is notorious with my group of friends in Thailand.

Unfortunately, you will probably encounter this. It may seem great that an amazing beautiful girl will not let you out of her sight, but quickly you will find that the loss of your freedom just may not be worth it. A “Stage 5 Clinger” will not let you out of her sight no matter what you do. You go to the store to get some food, she will be there, you want to go out with your guy friends,
and she creates a major fuss about it. You want to use the toilet; she wants you to leave the door open. You go to sleep and wake up with her looking at you with shinny eyes. It gets very tiresome very quickly. Not to mention very unsettling, and now you need to
figure out how to get rid of her and fast.

There problem with these types of girls is that you cannot tell until you have sex with them. The girl may tell you she has a job and needs to go to work in the morning, but calls in sick just to spend the day with you. Then the next thing you know, it has been
one week and she has not left your side.

If you ask her to go home, she will get all quiet and make you feel guilty about wanting your space. Remember, this is what they are good at, playing guilt and mind games.

Making you feel like you need her not the other way around, that might work for a while but remember the longer you stay with her the worse it will turn out in the end.

This will happen to you in Thailand. If you appreciate your space even a little bit, you need to know how to handle these girls. There are two ways, one extreme and another, which requires some discipline:

1- Extreme Method

Personally, my freedom and personal space is very important to me. If I have a girlfriend that does not understand this, then I cannot have her around. If you are as I am in this case, you need to end it as soon as possible. Even if she is a perfect 10, you must end it and remember she will make you feel guilty no matter what.

Once you see some of the warning signs mentioned above, you need to send her home and never respond to her calls or text messages again. It will be very difficult to send them home due to the guilt trips they will try to pull. If you let them back in your life
again, it will be even harder to make them understand, do not give them mixed signals.

2- Discipline Method

Once you feel that you can handle the guilt, and you feel the girl is worth it, this will be your best way. Be disciplined about it. If she stays the night at your house, let her know that you have something to do in the morning and she HAS to leave at 9:00 am. Stick to
this, when 9:00 am hits, she has to be on her way.

She will cook you breakfast, tell you she can stay and clean your house, or a million other reasons why she needs to stay, but stick to your gun on this one.

After a few times of you sticking to the agreement, she will start to understand and realize you are serious. Then if things are going well, slowly let her into more of your life. However, be careful, if you slip up once, your freedom will be very difficult to get
back.